Anal sex is not something that is
experienced exclusively by gay men; it is experienced on a regular
basis by heterosexual couples. Men and women of all walks of life
enjoy anal sex as an alternative to everyday lovemaking. Itís not
for everyone, but anal sex may be what youíre looking for if you
want to try something completely different.
do people enjoy anal sex?
Anal sex is
enjoyable because of the rich body of nerve endings in the anus.
While people often experience pain when first attempting anal sex,
as you learn to relax, the pain often subsides into pleasure. For
men, anal sex offers stimulation to the prostate, an organ that
provides the rush of pleasure during orgasm. You can also insert
your own fingers during masturbation.
To prepare yourself for
anal sex, the first thing to do is learn to relax. This may
include a hot bath beforehand, an erotic massage or even just a
good workout. The sphincter muscles around the anus will not allow
things to pass through easily unless you relax and take it slow.
Always pay attention to your partner to indicate whether or not
they are comfortable.
Slow & Easy Does It
Do not start with
something the size of a dildo or penis. Start with a well
lubricated finger. Take the finger and arouse the surface of the
anus by making small circular motions as you go. Slowly attempt to
push your finger slightly inside the anus. Do not force your hand
- stop if your partner complains of discomfort. If it is difficult
to enter the anus, use more lubrication. If it is too
uncomfortable stop and try again later. Later may mean some other
time. Think of this process as training for later anal encounters.
Even a finger can provide intense stimulation when inserted in the
Finally, use your
common sense. The rectal wall curves and is thin, be aware that
long, hard objects can tear your insides. Don't wear any jewelry
on your hands, and cut your fingernails if you are going to put
your finger in someone's anus.
are many more positions and techniques to try. Find the one that
suits you best. Good communication is the key to such discovery,
and a manual or video can help as well.
Liberal amounts of
lubrication are necessary because the rectal wall can be quite
sticky and is subject to tearing and lesions if not kept
lubricated. Never use Vaseline or any other petroleum oil based
lube. Use plenty of water soluble lubrication when you try anal
sex. I recommend Ease, it has a spermicidal that is believed to
decrease HIV, or astrolabe, although it tends to be a little
light. We especially like a lubricant called WET. It seems to stay
around for a while. Use lots of lubricant. No such thing as too
much lube. The more lube you use, the more comfortable you will
be. You should remember that your anus and rectum do not have
their own natural lubrication nor the kind of elasticity the mouth
and vagina enjoy.
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