Sam, 19

Cjn makes a point not to think that your new boyfriend will cheat becuz your other one did and he is right, and that's where Guin makes her point that offers you the solution. Make a judgement call on the guy, it's as simple as that. If you believe he will work (and you cannot absolutely garantee that he will) then you can chance the whole trust thing. Also if you'd like, make clear to him how important this is to you and you can't have cheaters. He can then decide for himself and tell you if he is a loyal person or not.

Wut I want to know is why you question your doubts in men at the end of your posting. You say "or am I" as tho you think something else may be up. Is that true? Are you at least in some part jealous of your mates? Or perhaps you aren't so confident in your looks? If so tell us, you should present the whole problem for it to be remedied.

Cjn, 31

The reality of life is that we all tend to hold onto the baggage that life delivers. The truth is that your new guy is a different person. While you have been hurt before you cannot hold your current man responsible for the actions of the last. Take a chance and trust him. Be open and share your concerns if you need to but dont change your life because of the discresions of the last guy.
You may also think about gettng better friends.

Guin, 58

All men aren't the same. Some of them are lying cheats and some of them are sweethearts. In the future make sure you pick the sweetheart variety. The best advice, I think, would be to take it slow--don't become involved to quickly. Wait and get to know the man you are dating, get to know what kind of person he is. If he is a bad one you will see that facet of his personality emerging and when/if you do get rid of him FAST. Personally, I'm always willing to trust someone until they give me reason not to, once I catch them lying to me they are history. As for your boyfriend taking up with your best friend....bummer. BUT remember---they deserve each other! Each of them let you down and if they will screw you over they will screw each other over as well. You didn't lose anything in that deal, they did. (They both lost you.) I have never minded my men being interested in my women friends...as friends...I wanted them to like each other. Pick women friends who are loyal to YOU and you won't have that problem in the future. Good luck.

Pam, 23

Dud, aka Kat, you dish it out so well, why do you fold up when someone gives you some of your own back?

kat, 18

Go pound salt!

Pam, 23

Dud is fat, bald, no job, no car, and has a little dickie. He can't get a woman, most losers can't, even fat women find him repulsive so he has a thing about fat women. He wants one for his very own, if he hits on you tell the old bald buzzard NO! He's an internet vulture, searching for a roly poly little woman all his own.

DUD, 40

Kat are you fat? If so I can see why your bf would wander off with your girlfriends.