Jill, 22

You should talk to her and tell her how that you feel and you don't like it when you do try to talk and she acts like she is in outer space.

mero, 24

kick her to the curb and move on. If shes got your pride and your balls on a plater stay with her. WHy do you want to subject yourself to that kind of abuse. I read in a book once that many of us (humans) stay in unhappy relationships because the other person doesnt walk all over us the way we do with ourselves mentally. If you're really a man kick her to the curb and find a new one. Dont waste your time with just one or two date a couple. you'll see that after a while you can choose which one your a little more compatable with. This sucks i just keep hearing men whining like little girls over thier other half that walks all over them. lets put it this way you let her walk all over you and talk to you that way. If I did the same you and I would be scrapping... RIGHT? what she has sex with you....oooooh lets not forget that this world is filled with more women and they are all human too they like sex too. its not a one way street. you probably treat her good too. you dont call her names and open the door for her too...... I wouldnt be suprised if you do all the above because your scared of rejection from new women. Get over it. If you think about for every 10 no's your get one yes, it would be worth working 100 girls to sleep with 10 of them right....the odds get better as you come out of the shy timid shell.

LIZ, 30

Capman. I have problems with my husband myself abouth the talking thing. The thing is man don't like to talk and women do. I read a very good book that explained the difference between man and women and then you get to understand a lot of things (women from venus man form mars). I'm 30 years old and in my dating days I found many guys that didn't talk about anything else than "last weekend i went to a party....". You got to read newspapers to talk about important things happening but you always have to be yourself and talk abouth things that interest you and maybe will interest this Girlfriend or any other girl in the future. A good conversation starter for you could be what she likes? travel, a sport, experiences she's had, what are her plans in the future, places she would like to visit, etc. there the conversation goes on. Cultivate yourself, learn and read about different things so that you can have a pleasant and interesting conversation with ANYONE.

Guin, 58

Capman, I gotta tell ya, it's kind of hard to have a conversation with a girl who says, "Uh, yeah, well I don't really care." It doesn't sound to me as if she is a really hot momma in the conversation department herself. When you talk to someone (a girl, boy, man, woman) they have to give you some feedback--it's kind of like bouncing a ball back and forth, you bounce it to them and they bounce it back to you--when one of you drops the ball....games over. If she wants to have a dialogue she has to meet you halfway, otherwise you are mumbling along with a monologue.

What to talk about? School, people you know at school, (a bit of gossip :)) movies you like, books you like (if you are into reading) the music you like/don't like---funny things people you know have said or done---humor is always good. But when you bring up a subject and she does that "Uh, yeah, well I don't really care" thing ask her just what she does care about, put the ball in her court, force her to come up with a subject that interests her and one that she does want to discuss. She can't expect you to do all the talking and her act all superior about the subjects you choose.

As for boring lives---don't sell yourself short, ALL of our lives are boring, especially to us, the one's who are living them. Everybody else always look as if they are having a better time than we are. I guess that grass always looks greener on the other side of the fence. You do a lot of things that you take for granted (because you do it all the time) that other people might think was interesting and exciting. Don't give up on yourself and don't let anyone put you down because you may not be a conversational giant---you have plenty of time to learn the art of conversation---but you need to talk to someone who can keep up their end of the conversation--this is one of those things that comes from experience, the more you talk to people the easier it gets to talk---sometimes you just never seem to run out of subject matter. Good luck with this girl---make HER talk to YOU! :-)