CodeMaster, 40

Forget candles-R-us... Even local grocery stores or home improvement stores often sell small (votive?) candles by the bag. Just the small tin-cup candles for power outages etc. You can usually get 20-50 in a bag, often for under $5.

Yes, I know they're not terribly romantic but... I'd suggest using them as "filler" lights in the more remote parts of the room away from the bed.

Get some real/nice votives for the nightstand etc.

Also (by actual experience here) be careful in picking out any scented candles. Too many scented candles, and/or too many competing scents, and it can be a distraction, cause a headache, etc. (hey, I tried, who knew?)

But yeah, there's something about candle light, a little red wine, background music... and oh yeah - NO KIDS! LOL (or grandkids, whatever the case may be)

Guin, 58

Michael!

I am sooo wicked and you just gave me a fab idea! I'm going to do this to The Mister one of these days BUT I want to get on tape the look on his face when I "squeeze his package"!!! That would be worth a million bucks, he just totally would not expect that at all. The very thought of it makes me giggle, I'll have to try it. Bet he'll drop that remote.......*big loopy grin*

Michael, 31

I just love getting you yakking! :)

You should have a little fun and throw that information out to Mr. Guin one day out of the blue. "I'd just love to make love in a room chock full of candles. I would passionately ravish the hell out of you by candlelight!!! I'd make you forget your own name!" Then give him a wink, a smile, and a kiss while you give his package a squeeze. Then walk away. I'll bet Mr. Guin goes to Candles-R-Us like a flash. :)

Guin, 58

Michael,

Yes, you can mention his age. :-) I wish more people in the fifty and over age range would write more often...I don't know why they don't.

I work with a guy who is kind of like Frank, he is always planning romantic getaways for him and his wife. The Monday mornings after one of these jaunts are always interesting, he comes breezing in with a big grin on is face--giving me the "thumbs up"---one morning I was talking to a client and this rat walks behind the client (so only I could see him) gives me thumbs up THEN he held up a vee sign---meaning he did it twice!!!! Oh shucks, I wanted to laugh so BAD but I had to keep a straight face and keep talking to the client. I told him later if he EVER did that to me again I was going to break his neck!!! He is always trying to make me laugh when it would be terribly inappropriate to do so. One morning he came in looking sad and dejected, I asked him what was wrong (he'd had a weekend planned for him and the wife) and he said, "Grandkids! They came over this weekend and ya can't shake loose of them for a minute, they're like a bunch of pint sized leeches!" Ah well, the more things change the more they stay the same. Younger people have to deal with the kids and the older ones have to deal with the grandkids. This guy is in his mid fifties. He and his wife have been married about 6 or 7 years, second marriage for each of them, they have adult children and those little grandchildren who hang on like leeches!:)

But I like Frank's ideas, great ideas. I think to make love in a room chock full of candles would be sooo cool. My husband heard (probably on that oracle of information, CNN) that candles gave off lead poisoning. He doesn't realize that I would risk a bit of lead poisoning for the opportunity to passionately ravish the hell out of him by candlelight!!! :-) I'd make him forget all about lead poison...I'd make that ol' boy forget his own name! Hahahaha

Okay, I'm shuttin' up, ya got me yakking again.:)

Michael, 31

Can you imagine the number of happy women out there if more guys DID think like this?

I was very intrigued by his post not only for the content, but also for a different reason. Is it ok to say it was because of his age? I think in time, many guys fall into the mediocrity trap. Their lovemaking and romantic attempts become bland and predictable. I think it's great that Frank hasn't fallen victim to the mediocrity trap and would LOVE to hear more from him. I could really learn a lot from a guy who thinks the way Frank thinks. So, come on, Frank. Share some more wisdom. :)

Guin, 58

I agree, Michael. When I read Frank's post all I could think was, "Cool, all husbands should think like this!"

Michael, 31

I like the way you think, Frank! Post more! :)