CodeMaster, 39

such as "...making him work harder for it..."

That is fine, and valid up to a point. We always seem to want what we can't have. However, once we've had it, and feel like we're "entitled to it" (right or wrong) taking it away is bad. Who was it, Pat Bennetar that sang a song about using sex as a weapon?

If you start playing games with your BF very, very shortly he is going to get sexually frustrated and start thinking about looking somewhere else. Or he'll recognize the games for what they are, and be angry/hurt/disgusted with you for playing him. (in addition to being sexually frustrated) Not a good mix, at all.

Best bet is if you want/need more romance, you're going to have to do a little work. Believe it or not, most guys *want* to keep their GF happy. But a lot of us need a little help/training. So talk to him about your needs. Give him some ideas. Let him know that it is ok to expand on those ideas too. Just get his creative juices flowing. And then make sure you follow-through on the "reward" for giving you what you want/need.

ted, 18

I agree with Cyndi's idea, make him work harder to get it on with you. He's going to want it and do "anything for it". but let it be known, that there is a percentage of guys who are romantically incapable, believe it or not. If this is the problem, you try to hint off romantic ideas. Do some romantic things with him and make sure it's good enough so he would never forget it, then turn it into a game. Now he has to try to "out do" you, and just continue with this idea. Girls, you be suprise the non clique ideas guys have.

Brian, 35

It's not our fault women don't find televised discussions on US/France relations as sexy as we do.

Cyndi, 22

Make him work harder to get in your pants! After sex, guys are about as romantic as C-SPAN.