mary, 37

Marsha, my husband has been up to this for about 3 years now. It doesn't get better. Try to talk about this. Communication is the key, they say. If he's anything like my husband you have a difficult time getting him to talk with you. My guess their imbrasised. Beofre times get to rough, find some one to talk to if he's not willing. I does hurt to think that we're in this togather and they're doing it alone. But try to not personalize this to much yes, your part of this relationship but the prono stuff is really his thing and he needs to rethink his life style. Good Luck Hope everything works out for you.

JimC, 42

Some men need variety to get aroused and turn to porn to get that variety. This need for variety occurs in most men but can be a big problem in men who's sexual boredom with the same partner begins to have physical effects such as an inability to get or sustain an erection or, more commonly, the inability to have an orgasm with their partner. When this happens many men turn to porn as self masturbation alone is the only way for them to be sexually satisfied.

Brian, 34

The internet is an endless resource for pornography. You can see anything in the world here, from mild to wild. Guys are very visually stimulated and in general, like looking at naked women. It's a match made in heaven, with one exception: Our wives.

I don't look at too much porno online because I know I'm gonna get wound up and either end up pleasuring myself or just walking around with a boner all day waiting for my wife so I can beg her for sex. And I never masturbate while looking at porno online because I'm afraid of getting caught and being embarassed. So, your husband's worst nightmare came true. Now that you know what he was doing, the topic has been opened up for discussion. Take advantage of that and speak with him. Set his mind at ease by telling him how it kinda made you excited seeing him masturbate. Maybe he will open up to you a little without the fear of being embarassed further and you'll be able to figure out how to put the zing back into sex for both of you. But, let him know that you will not put up with him getting his pleasure online while leaving you upstairs without any sex.

Sean, 18

could meen that he needs a change, maybe more kinky sex or just different things in sex ie positions toys and that sort of stuff. i suggest you talk to him and find out